36-year-old virgin shares the secrets of abstinence
Practicing abstinence is probably one of the most
challenging things to do. Your mind, spirit, and body are
constantly in conflict as you decide which one (or two)
is the most accurate.
Aside from the benefits of practicing abstinence that
are taught in the Christian faith, refraining from sex has
been scientifically proven to be successful for women
who are seeking marriage. Scientists believe women
who “play hard to get” are able to assess a man who
will stick by her side during pregnancy.
Forty-three-year-old Lakita Garth was a 36-year-old
virgin in 2005 when she kissed her boyfriend-turned-
husband for the first time.
her 36 years of virginity and is now helping other
women around the world learn how to refrain from sex
prior to marriage.
Excerpts from her interview are below:
On Her Family’s Influence on Her Choice:
In my family, if you had sex outside of marriage,
someone got married, or someone got shot! I come
from a line of Christians that believe your faith must
impact the culture. It has to go farther than your
personal relationship with Christ.
On Choosing a Mate that Is Not Into the Church:
You can’t be the key to his spiritual maturity.
To be single was to be undistracted in my devotion to
God. Keep your options open. God’s perfect mate for
you may not look or sound like your ‘fantasy mate’.
One commenter with the user name “Chris” did not
agree with Garth’s advice. He responded to her
interview saying: “The Bible does not make any of the
claims that this article makes about sexual purity
before marriage. The abstinence model of Christianity
is an inherited tradition and not a hard and fast line
which the Bible draws. “Don’t have sex before
marriage!” they say. Why? The Bible says we should
abstain from “sexual immorality.” What is sexual
immorality? “Sex before marriage,” they say. Says
who? It is a tradition, not an inviolable maxim — a
tradition which made sense in earlier cultures where
everyone married AND they did so at a young age.
Sex before marriage is certainly a risky venture, but
articles like these unnecessarily shame devoted lovers
who have not yet overcome the logistical hurdles of
holding a wedding. In all honesty, the girl in this article
sounds totally self-absorbed/self-righteous, some of
the most disgusting traits for a Christian to have. We
should NOT be holding her up as a model for Christian